“People are quick to give advice but what is truly wanted and needed is deep listening.”
I spoke with a friend last night and as I began to tell my friend a story she quickly interrupted with advice. I actually didn’t feel I needed advice and hadn’t gotten to the main point of my brief story yet. A little bit later as I told my friend about a part of my life I was struggling with she quickly jumped in with a solution to my issue. Again, I actually wasn’t looking for a quick solution. I was looking to be heard.
I meditated this morning on my conversation with my well-intended friend and in my meditation I heard this message: “People are quick to give advice but what is truly wanted and needed is deep listening. Aspire to listen deeply today. From this place of deep listening you will know when to speak and when to offer assistance. There is a quality of listening that allows the other to find their own answers. Seek this sort of listening.”
What would it be like to not give advice but instead to listen deeply. What would it be like to know that each person you come in contact with has a place of tremendous wisdom inside of them. What would it be like to learn to listen in such a way that you empower those in your life to connect with the tremendous wisdom that lies inside of themselves.
I would like to begin today’s meditation with the affirmation:
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I would like you now to imagine being in a conversation with a friend or loved one. Focus now on listening very deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
Listen deeply to their words, listen deeply to their affect, listen deeply to their body language. Remember that this person has the answer to there own problems. Remember that this person has a place of tremendous wisdom within them. Remember that this person is capable and strong. Remember that this person wants to be heard.
What you focus on grows. As you focus on the wisdom and capacity that lies within others you help to bring these qualities forward.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
When you are in a place of deep listening you will know when to speak, you will know when to offer assistance. From a place of deep listening you will know what to say and what not to say. Focus today on deeply listening to others. See how this affects the quality of your interactions.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I meditated this morning on my conversation with my well-intended friend and in my meditation I heard this message: “People are quick to give advice but what is truly wanted and needed is deep listening. Aspire to listen deeply today. From this place of deep listening you will know when to speak and when to offer assistance. There is a quality of listening that allows the other to find their own answers. Seek this sort of listening.”
What would it be like to not give advice but instead to listen deeply. What would it be like to know that each person you come in contact with has a place of tremendous wisdom inside of them. What would it be like to learn to listen in such a way that you empower those in your life to connect with the tremendous wisdom that lies inside of themselves.
I would like to begin today’s meditation with the affirmation:
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I would like you now to imagine being in a conversation with a friend or loved one. Focus now on listening very deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
Listen deeply to their words, listen deeply to their affect, listen deeply to their body language. Remember that this person has the answer to there own problems. Remember that this person has a place of tremendous wisdom within them. Remember that this person is capable and strong. Remember that this person wants to be heard.
What you focus on grows. As you focus on the wisdom and capacity that lies within others you help to bring these qualities forward.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
When you are in a place of deep listening you will know when to speak, you will know when to offer assistance. From a place of deep listening you will know what to say and what not to say. Focus today on deeply listening to others. See how this affects the quality of your interactions.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
I listen deeply.
Written by Hayley Mermelstein © 2012. All rights reserved.
Excellent reminder I could use - deep listening instead of giving unsolicited advice.
ReplyDeleteThanks Weezie. I'm working on it too!
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